Read Carefully—One May Be Your Deliverance
Let’s not sugarcoat it. You may get offended reading this, but hidden somewhere in these words might be the key that unlocks your next level. Don’t just read—reflect.
1. There’s No History, No Relationship, No Context.
You emerged from the shadows, unknown and uninvited, and laid your request bare. But tell me—on what foundation should someone build the bricks of help for you? Help is not dispensed in a vacuum. People invest where there is relationship equity, not random desperation.
2. You Value Their Hand, Not Their Heart.
You want their wallet, but you ignore their worth. You honour their resources but not their relevance. You bypass the person and lunge for their provision. And yet, you’re shocked that they’ve gone cold on you? Newsflash: nobody wants to bankroll their own dishonour.
3. You Ask As If It’s Owed.
You approach with entitlement, not humility. You drop your request like it’s a demand note, not a plea. And you expect doors to swing open? No—it is not your right to be helped. Help is a privilege granted, not an obligation fulfilled.
4. You’ve Abused the Bridge Before.
Once bitten, forever cautious. Some people helped you before—and you squandered it, ignored their advice, or acted like you deserved more. Some people have helped you too often, and your gratitude shrank while your demands grew. Now they’ve withdrawn. And you think it’s spiritual warfare?
5. You Bring Nothing to the Table.
Help isn’t always about pity—it’s sometimes about exchange. Conditional helpers exist—those who assist based on the value you also bring. You may be crying out, but what weight do you carry? If you are a consistent taker, you’ll wear out your welcome in any circle.
6. You Think You’re Equals—or Worse, Rivals.
You want someone to lift you while you’re secretly competing with them? Nobody funds a threat. If you can’t acknowledge someone’s superior position or God-given grace in a moment, don’t expect them to lift you to their level. Helpers want to feel secure, not sabotaged.
7. You Despise Small Help.
You reject the £10 because you prayed for £1,000. You think help must come dramatically, not quietly. But here’s what you forget: sometimes, the little you were given cost the giver everything. Yet you looked away, ungrateful. That’s not a minor flaw—it’s a demon called ingratitude, and it closes major doors.
8. You Act Like the Helper.
You receive help, yet walk with the attitude of a benefactor. Confusion of roles. Blurred lines. You’re quick to remind everyone what you did for your helper in the past. But here’s a painful truth: even if the giving is mutual, learn to honour the weight of what you’ve received. Never overestimate your contribution.
In conclusion…
Argue if you wish. But somewhere in these 8 truths is your wake-up call. Pride has robbed many. Entitlement has buried countless dreams. Relationships have died, not for lack of help—but because of how it was requested, received, or abused.
This is not just advice. For someone reading this—this is your rescue.
Selah. Be wise. Be grateful. Be helped.
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