For Men and Husbands

Married but Available? Open Letter to Married Men.

Today’s message is for married men. Yes, you, sir. Mr. Husband. Mr. Head of the House. Mr. “I paid her bride price.” Let’s have a little heart-to-heart, man to man talk.

Because lately, a dangerous thing has been trending quietly. It’s called: Married but Available.

You flirt like you’re single. You reply “goodnight dear ” to women who aren’t your wife. You still say “my type” like you’re shopping.

Let’s Be Honest. Yes, your wife may have changed. She’s not the slim, sweet-voiced babe you married. Now she’s got stretch marks, stress, and baby spit on her t-shirt.
The romance is now “Did you boil rice?”
The only “action” you’re getting is her chasing your toddler with a shoe.

But guess what? You changed too. Before marriage: six-pack and cologne. Now: potbelly and morning breath that can kill a mosquito mid-air. Before: “Let’s go out, babe.” Now: “Where’s my remote?”

Yet somehow, you believe you still deserve a “hot girl” side piece because your wife isn’t “exciting” anymore?

Oga, come off it. Temptation is Real. But So is Discipline. No one’s denying the fact that other women still find you attractive.
You’ve got charisma, confidence, maybe even cash now. But that’s exactly why you need to be extra careful.

Because the devil won’t send you an ugly demon, he’ll send you your type, with better perfume, softer voice, and less responsibilities.

But remember: Being tempted doesn’t mean you’re weak, giving in does. That girl texting you late at night. She doesn’t love you, she loves the idea of you. Wait till you bring in your boxers and budget, and see if her tone won’t change.

You think you’re having fun. But one wrong move and you’ll lose a loyal woman, wreck your children’s peace, and for what? Two minutes of pleasure

Be intentional with romance. Take her out. Smell good. Trim the beard. Compliment her. If you’re not happy, say so. If you’re tired, say so. Silence is the devil’s language.

That ex? Block her. That “work wife”? Unassign her. Your marriage is not an experiment. This is not a test run.

And if you’ve lost the spark in your home, don’t light candles in another woman’s room, you might set your destiny on fire.