INSULTING OTHERS IN THE NAME OF COMMUNICATING THE TRUTH IS NOT THE GOSPEL.

ONE OF THE ISSUES IN THE BODY OF CHRIST TODAY IS THE WAY THE TRUTH IS BEING COMMUNICATED.

DOING ALL THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY HAVE CONSEQUENCES; SOME WILL DESTROY YOU.

Let me tell you this. There are people that the moment you marry them, there is the consequence of not checking it through God before you marry them and the consequence is that eventually you may not be able to live together. Yes! You may not be able to check it. If you fail to check it…You see, before you blame people who are single mothers and single fathers, try and understand the kind of person they ran away from. Sometimes, it is important that before this person dies, please separate yourself. And there are matters that even after the separation can no longer be settled by the both of you and pastors. Church Gist. There is a need for family involvement. Somebody has to sign a contract, ‘I will not slap my wife again. I will not do this. I will not go out as a married man and sleep with other girls, if I come back with diseases and kill her…’ We don’t excuse certain things and say, no, no, both of you are believers. No! This is a matter of life and death, let’s talk about it. ‘You say, ‘you two hug your wife, you two hug’ – you have not settled anything. There are consequences.

I told you on Tuesday we are in a generation that your ex boyfriend can be somebody else’s wife. Ex boyfriend! You say, that’s my ex boyfriend but now, he’s somebody or ‘shim’ is somebody else’s wife. Church Gist. Hey, there are consequences for the direction this generation wants to head. Leave us to do anything. Whatever makes you happy, do it – there is a consequence. Do what makes you happy, do what makes you feel good. That’s not the life of someone who will go far.

There are things that make you happy but will destroy you. If we were to attend or to study the courses we studied and go for lectures when we feel like, we would never graduate. Church Gist. By now, I might still be in Part 2. You think I really like exams? I might be busy up and down doing crusades. You say, Apostle, you have first semester – I say, “I’m coming. After all, I can go through this and then graduate whenever I choose to.” But rules and laws are there to protect us from ourselves. Let me tell you something, in boxing and by the way I slept well tonight. Oh, if you don’t know, you don’t know. Forget about that, what do you mean? My wife said, “babe, go and sleep.” I said, I can’t sleep. I need to have an idea of what’s going to happen today. Let’s leave that. We will leave the Jews out of this.

Now in boxing, when two people are fighting and there is a referee in between them, the reason why the referee is there – number one is to maintain the rules of the game. But ultimately the referee is there to protect him (the wrestler) from himself. There is a kind of punch that if he receives twice, his destiny will go on strike. Church Gist. Have you seen where they punched people, the head is one side and the leg is misbehaving? But even in that state, it is possible that a man wants to continue because of ego. But the referee is there saying no, ‘I understand your ego wants to go on but I am here to protect you from yourself. The Word of God is there to protect you from you. There are things I can do…First accept that you can be destructive, accept that you can be bad, accept that you can be rude (and) accept that you have certain tendencies.

You see, when you judge yourself, you will not be judged. So that by the time you start doing certain things and somebody complains, it is something you know that it is something I have the likelihood of. So when your wife says, ‘you keep making decisions without telling me’ because you have already told yourself, you say “it’s true, I’m sorry.” You don’t have to respond to every conversation with arguments. Church Gist. ‘What do you mean now? That’s how the other day too, you said’…no,no! Start by saying, I validate your feelings. So you keep doing such…my wife has big grammar – all these counselors. Sometimes, I don’t know what she’s talking about. ‘This, this is the reality of this’ – it’s true, I validate your feelings provided that after this conversation, I can go back to what I am…I validate your feelings, woman of God. But when you already know yourself that I have this tendency…You see, the reason why you fight when somebody confronts you about what is bad is because you know that it is bad but you have refused to accept the reality. That you have something that is bad doesn’t mean you are bad. It doesn’t mean you are bad but this thing is bad. Your wife has been telling you, whenever you sleep like this, you snore. You say “no, in my family nobody snores.” Don’t wait till she records you. Now she has recorded you now, she’s playing your snore; you say who’s oning generator around here? (Laughs) Are you following what I’m saying here? And you too the wife, don’t tell your spouse, you snore like an elephant.

Let me tell you something, there are things you tell men and you don’t get solutions on because in the place of doing…that you know something he should do well doesn’t mean you must tear him down. Church Gist. No, no! You can be right but on top of your voice, you are wrong. What you are saying is correct but there is an how. The Bible says that, “a good woman builds her house with her hands but a careless one tears it down with her words.” I see people say things like, “who gave you the audacity to talk to women?” The Bible gave me. You think we are going to leave a generation to rot? That’s how we abandoned men years back. No, no! We will tell you once it is Scriptures. Are you following what I’m saying here? When you are going to build, soft words turn away wrath. That’s what the Bible says.

Let me tell you one of the very evident signs of low self esteem. If you know people, one of the ways to know people that (their) esteem is destroyed is that whenever they know something you don’t know, the way they will push it on you – they will try to reduce you with this one knowledge so that they can look better. That you know what I don’t know now doesn’t still make you better and it doesn’t make me better. We are just distinct. This is one of the rudiments for doctrinal fight in the Body of Christ. Now, you have found out that this is true…you see, once the devil can’t stop you from knowing the truth, he can cheat you in the area of communicating the truth with grace. Church Gist. Now you know the truth but the truth you now know is causing injury. Nobody is receiving it because with this same truth, you will insult this one and insult that one. No! That’s not the Bible.

I see some young people arguing – this, this; actually Joshua did not tell the sun to stand. The Earth stopped rotating – we understand that in Geography and Physics. Now that you know it, what should we do about it? When you listen to people, what is their intention as compared to what they have communicated? It is maturity to now put the intention over the communication and accept them from where they are. Church Gist. This is life. If you caught somebody who is wrong today, you can be wrong tomorrow. ‘No, no, you don’t put your shoe here. No! This is the problem with all of you guys. Look at now, people will go outside now, they will think you are a good man.’ On top of shoe? Shoe! Is somebody learning something today? Are you sure? Alright!

Pay attention to this. I want to list a few things that the devil has been able to push on this generation and also show you the consequence that is attached to them.

1. There are consequences that come with the mentality of entering into marriage while you perceive yourself or your gender as a victim. Or there is the consequence of having a victim mentality. I will tell you what that means. Victim mentality is when you are getting married or you are in a marriage with the thought that women are always the victim or no, men are always the victim or no, women are at the receiving end. Church Gist. Whatever is happening to women – women this is your own case. Let me tell you the danger of victim mentality. There will be things people will say as a mob because they have similar pain. You don’t have that pain. Understand that you are different. What they are saying as a mob, if you import that consciousness to your home, it will create a system of fear that the pain your mob colleagues have, you will birth it in your own home.

There are people trying to lead an army of women and say to them, no, no (I’m going to get to another very serious point now) women in marriages – women don’t get to enjoy marriage. And there is also another school of thought that you see, women are the ones that enjoy everything; men don’t get to enjoy it. When a man becomes a CEO, he takes care of the mother, where is the father? Church Gist. Mother’s day, Mother’s day – no Father’s day. In all honesty, men are not really built around so many accolades like that. ‘I really don’t have any business with Father’s day, just serve me my food.’ I can’t remember telling my wife, ‘when last did you tell me you love me?’ What’s my business with that? I know you love me, period. If you start talking like that as a man, something is wrong. You say, ‘you have never told me in this house that you love me.’ Now, now, you are putting hands like this (putting hands on the waist). You’ve never told me in this house that…‘you don dey shake chest.’ (Laughs) Men are not wired like this. Men are wired to be strong. We are strong beings. That doesn’t mean we don’t have emotions. That doesn’t mean we don’t like gifts.

My wife promised me that she was going to give me a treat that I preached a good message on Thursday. Church Gist. So after Service, go and meet her, I have not seen my treat. She said, ‘you preached good, I’m bringing prophet’s offering.’ ‘I never see am. I just dey talk so that…’ I dare not hear ‘that that’ thing is a peck. Haba! (Laughs). Amen!

I want to beg you in the name of Jesus Christ every woman under the sound of my voice, the fact that something is happening to women doesn’t mean it will happen to you. Don’t import their pain as a material to build your own homes. I beg you. They may misunderstand the things I teach but you understand me. You are not a victim. You see, when you have that mentality in all honesty, it doesn’t matter how perfect you perceive any home to be, they deal with issues. Church Gist. The day you are dealing with your own issues that can be solved easily – you are going to kill an ant with a sledgehammer because you are perceiving him based on what the women’s movement is saying. And then you say, he’s one of them.

The day you start referring to your husband as ‘men’, then there’s problem. “Ehn, we know, men” That’s an import of certain ideologies and there are men also who believe that only women enjoy the children at the end of the day. So “let me enjoy my life now, let me spend my own money now. Las las, it’s their mother they will remember” and by the time you do that, you will not be as sacrificial as you should be as a leader. Church Gist. This is the divine order, a good man leaves good inheritance for his children. You are not going to live a life that if children have not brought money, you won’t eat.